Emotional Turmoil in Children and my Absence

The loss of a parent is never an easy thing for a child, and the opposite is virtually impossible to even comprehend. Children lose their parents in a variety of different ways which may not include death. It could be that a parent falls prey to some disabling disease that prevents him or her to function as a parent in full capacity. Or it could mean separation between the spouses due to irreconcilable differences. The result is that one parent becomes the primary caregiver, and the other who may have so much to offer, often loses the opportunity to do so due to what I can only deem as fate.

Children suffer. They feel hurt and abandoned. This comes out in various ways. The older the child, the more he or she will express the grief in anger related outbursts. The younger the child, the more insecure he will feel.

As most of you already know I am a mother to six children ranging from the ages 2.5 to 14. Due to some unavoidable personal issues, my circumstances led me to be apart from my children whom I love very dearly. And yet in my heart I know that the environment would not foster positivity for anyone involved. Under these extremely difficult circumstances I keep praying for them and their and success in life. These children are the light of my life, the truly good that I have done is having borne them. The tears flow as I write this post now.

As so many of you have given me so much love and appreciation, I felt I should explain my absence so this was it. The founder of UAE Mums Hena, declined to remove me as an author of this blog despite my requests. I felt that in order to move forward with my life I had to let this group go. But I slowly realized that I could still contribute in some capacity, since I still feel like I can contribute.So it is with great pride I say that I intend to continue in my efforts to bring you a weekly post on education/parenting.

As for my children, they are too young to understand the dynamics of the extreme circumstances that led to this moment today. Mothers know that they would sacrifice most of what they have to be with their children obviously and hence can relate to turmoil I feel right now. 

God has a plan for everyone, and He has never let me down so far. I have a goal now... what I will not be able to do for my own kids, I will do for the kids in my society. I will try to leave a legacy behind for my children which they may aspire to one day in the future, perhaps after my life time. 

This goes out to all mothers reading this today, hug your kids tight right now. Fate can deal you some unexpected blows. Don't take the time you have with them for granted. As for my children, I will be there for them in whatever capacity I am able to be. 

When your child misbehaves, it is simply because he wants something that you have not understood. When he is defiant, it is because he is hurt. If he lashes out it is because he wants you to pay attention to him. If he cries it's because he wants you to turn towards him. Think the next time a tear falls down that innocent face. Take it from someone who can only just wipe her own.