How can I communicate with my 14-year-old son who ignores me and does his own thing?

Recently I spoke with a mother of a 14 year old teen boy whose body language and voice emitted disappointment, fear and helpless around parenting her young son. My heart went out to her and I know, sometimes how despite our best interests at heart for our children things just don’t seem to be going in the right direction. Whatever you as a parent say or do seems to antagonize your child even more, with the result that you end up feeling even more confused and at a loss of how you could be a better parent.

As far as your child is concerned, the teenage years can be full of turmoil and confusion and you as a parent may feel helpless and inadequate that despite  doing your best, your child has become unresponsive and indifferent to you increasing the gap in communication.

I share below how I guided this mom who asked: How can I communicate with my 14-year-old son who ignores me and does his own thing?

Communication - The solution

Good morning mums!

Today I will be talking about issues related to maternal relationship, that is relationship between a husband and a wife. Something we all want to discuss, but never get the guts to *wink wink*.

Afcourse no marriage is perfect and no bond the strongest. We have all had our issues from day to day. And those issues tend to build up these frustrations inside us, specially when we got no one close to discuss with. And that specially goes for most of our members living in the UAE away from their mommies and sisters.

That leads me to our topic for today, Communication.

90% of issues between a husband and wife is because of lack of communication between the two. Misunderstandings are created when one of the spouses misinterprets the others actions or words. Let's have a case study here, a very 'in the season' too.

It's Valentines Day. Aisha and Ali have been together for almost 5 years now. Every Valentine's he sends Aisha a bouquet of roses and chocolates through the mail. This valentines things are different. Ali left for work early today. Aisha has been excitedly waiting for her roses and chocolates since morning. Day passes slowly, and night falls. Ali comes home to a very depressed and angry wife. He has had a long day at work and was hoping to spend some quality time with his loving wife, but Aisha's bizarre behavior really confuses him. He has dinner alone. The silence is deafening. This angers him since he doesn't understand what he did wrong. Ayesha sits in her bedroom reading her book and goes to sleep angry, but early. Ali watches TV alone and sleeps late, still confused.

Do you see the problem here?

Lack of communication between Aisha and Ali destroys their day by Ayesha still angry at the unresolved issue while Ali still confused at what exactly happened?( Guys can be soooo thick sometimes!) A small misunderstanding can lead to larger issues, thus chipping a good marriage.

Now let's see at what should have happened.